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‘Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.’ 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18

Most of you may not know this — I’m a football coach. I’m pretty much Ditka reincarnated 🤪. Let me tell you how it happened.

A few years back, we signed up Roscoe (our son) to play flag football. He was pumped, I was pumped. Then, I received an email from the league that said, “we are short on coaches — is anyone willing to help?”

I responded with, “I can help, but I’m more of an assistant.” At the time, I was pretty intimidated by the whole system and setup. I had never coached before. I wasn’t so worried about coaching — it’s more about parent dynamics.

I started assisting — but by mid-season, I took over the team. The head coach had NO CLUE about football and was leading our kids down the road of — “let everyone play so we can all have fun.”

The problem with all the kids “having fun,” was that THEY WEREN’T. No child is having fun when you lose 44–0. These kids needed their confidence to be built. They needed to nail down the basics.

That first year we got smoked most of the season. We finished 1–4. However, we turned it around by winning 4 in a row. This took our team to the finals in our bracket.

In the final — we lost — it sucked. But, the kids were pumped. They went from zero to heroes in a single season. It all started with nailing down the basics. The basics were, playing good defense, catching the ball and believing that we COULD win.

Same rings true from my life. I look to nail down the basics every day. Here’s what some of the LIFE BASICS look like.

Every day is a gift — I’m grateful for the air I breathe, my family, a job, a place to live, food in the fridge and a vehicle to drive.

My kids are gifts. In Psalms it says, “children are a gift from the Lord — a reward.” So yah, I need to see and train my brain to see them as gifts. They don’t hold my life back — they accelerate growth. I’m better because of them.

You hear that — I AM BETTER because of them — the are a part of my super powers.

My bride is a treasure. Proverbs says, “he who finds a wife — finds a good thing and receives FAVOR from the Lord.” If there is anything I want and need — it’s f’n favor. I know I’m not as talented as most people. But, I have a great wife and I’ll take me some favor alongside that.

Know what the Bible says about your gifts and your day. If you don’t — you’re just being a f’n fool. Ain’t no ones fault but your own.

This verse in 1 Thessalonians tells us to “always be joyful and never stop praying.” Both of these instructions are LIFE BASICS.

When I wake up — I choose joy. I choose to smile and see through the lens of joy. It’s easy to allow alternative messaging to f up your joy — but you can’t. That’s part of the training. Own your joy — own your day.

Be mindful of the messaging you choose in the morning. Your morning messaging can be an attack or a blessing — you must choose. Believe it or not, if you miss the news — your day is going to be fine. If it f’s with your energy — kick it out.

Same rings true for prayer. If you are always in a state of prayer — who is gonna f up your day? No one! You control your decisions — therefore, control your prayer.

This past month we’ve been potty training Lior — she’s two. Our first two kids were a breeze with potty training. When I say a breeze, I’m talking like in 3 days.

Lior has had a really tough time. And, one of the things we noticed was that we had a much stricter diet with the other two. Lior really battles with (sorry for the graphic picture) constipation. Since she was born — it’s been tough for her. I mean, like crying tough.

The past several weeks we really noticed this. So, we changed her diet to no sugar, preservatives or gluten. This is what we did with our previous kids and things have gone much, much better.

The point of this story is to say — I pray and thank God every day she goes to the bathroom. I literally say, “thank you Jesus. She’s healed and whole.” I am thankful for the BASICS. It could be much, much worse and every little win is a moment for joy.

And yah, it’s really f’n cheesy — but I am thankful. It’s heartbreaking to watch a two year old struggle and become fearful of the toilet.

It may seem small — but it’s the f’n basics that matter.

“Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” — William Arthur Ward



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