MY BRIDE IS MAGICAL — HERE’S 4 REASONS WHY

You can inherit houses and land from your parents, but a good wife only comes as a gracious gift from God! Proverbs 19:14

Today marks anniversary number twelve. Some of the details of our wedding I can remember like they were yesterday — others, no clue. But, what does matter is that we continue to remember each other.

Life goes quick — the only people who say otherwise are elementary kids.I know because I remember how long it felt to go from age 10–18, was like an eternity.

I feel like so many times we miss moments because we are tangled in other things. Or, we just forget.

I don’t want to forget. I want to remember and my hope is that you remember your special moments as well. The worst thing you can do is look back on your life and say to yourself, “I wish we had done more for each other.”

Here’s a few things that remind me of my bride’s MAGIC. Maybe, just maybe — they will spark some memories for you.

She’s a Gift

My bride is a gift. Not just because I say it but because God says it. If you don’t feel like your bride is a gift — go look back on Proverbs 19:14 and hold onto the promise that she is.

My bride is a gift because I believe she is. If Proverbs says it, then I want to treat her as if she is. And, when I do — she most certainly is 100% percent of the time. When I don’t treat her that way — I don’t receive any of the gifts that she is.

When a man finds a wife, he has found a treasure! For she is the gift of God to bring him joy and pleasure. Proverbs 18:22

She’s a Treasure

My bride is a treasure. She’s not just a gift but she’s filled with wisdom and love. So, if she is a treasure — then I need to understand the power of that treasure.

And, trust me — there’s plenty of times when I miss this one. There has been moments when she may have food on her dress (from the kids), her hair all over the place (from the kids) and a fierce attitude (from the kids) — and I don’t treat her like the treasure she is — because I think she doesn’t look like treasure.

When this happens — I f up and MISS EVERYTHING.

If love is the treasure — laughter is the key. — Yakof Smirnoff

How true is this statement from Yakof. Usually, all we need to do is just laugh and everything is back to being ok. Doesn’t matter if our baby has 💩 on the floor or one of the kids have fallen down on concrete — laughter heals it all.

When Indiana Jones was trying to find the either the Lost Ark or some other buried treasure, it never looked good in the beginning. He had to dig, scrape, claw and blow stuff up to find it.

He did everything in his power to uncover it. He knew the worth was far more than the struggle to find it — and he did (insert Indiana Jones theme music).

I wish I was better at this with my bride. So many times I gave up on finding the treasure because it didn’t look like treasure. It looked too hard or I couldn’t see the treasure through the trial.

And that’s why I write this sort of stuff. I want to remember when I missed it and I want to learn and improve. Life is about learning — the moment we stop, we die.

Let every husband be filled with cherishing love for his wife and never be insensitive toward her. Colossians 3:19

She Has to be Cherished

My bride is the queen of the house. And yes, it’s easy to type or tell someone that at times but living it can be tough. I know for me, there’s times when I don’t treat her like a queen — and that’s my bad. Life gets in the way — usually as my own attitude and my I lose the vision of the queen and it turns into a quarrel.

My bride has to be treated like a queen if I want to receive the benefits of a queen. If I want the rewards of gifts and treasure as I’ve previously mentioned — then I HAVE to position myself accordingly, simple as that.

The second part of that verse can be tough for me as well, when it uses the word “insensitive.” I have a mode where I can go full tilt “insensitive.” I get hyper focused on something and just LOSE MY 💩 on everything else.

It sucks but it’s true. It’s also something that I consciously work on. I know I have tendencies to do that — so I remind myself. I literally talk to my brain about being MORE SENSITIVE. It’s this killer instinct that I have — which can be good — but also can be just the worst version of myself.

One of the ways that I remind myself to check my tone and sensitivity is remembering that my prayers are hinged on how I treat my wife.

Yah, I just said that. It totally sucks but totally true.

In 1 Peter 3:7 it says, “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”

Sucks right.

But hey, it’s another reward that I don’t want to miss. Prayer is powerful and one of the greatest thing that God gave us. He also gave me my bride. So, when I miss it with her — I’m missing it with God and that’s like the ultimate recipe for disaster.

So, I really, really try not to do that.

Ok, here’s my last one.

She’s Fun

Last night we watched 50 First Dates. We’ve seen it bunches of times but it’s always good to remember — keep trying to make her fall in love with me.

If you haven’t seen the film — watch it. It’s the funny version of The Notebook. In the film 50 First Dates, Adam Sandler falls in love with a girl (Drew Barrymore) who can only remember what happened for 24 hours.

So, everyday he comes up with all sorts of ways to make her fall in love with him again — brilliant idea by the way.

When you’ve been with someone for a long time — making them fall in love with you again isn’t on the top of your mind. You get preoccupied with all sorts of other things. But, at the end of the day, you both want to have that feeling of falling in love again. We all want it. We all crave it. We want to be wanted — we want the thrill of the chase.

So — why not make it happen?

Part of falling in love over and over comes down to having fun. Creating moments in the day to smile and laugh. Whether it’s lighting off fireworks to try and kill a rat (which I’ve done) or smiling and yelling “hello Bobby” out of my car window to see if a complete stranger would wave and smile back — it’s all done to spark fun.

So, on this 12th anniversary — I remember the gifts, the treasure, the fun and to cherish my bride. It’s all I have and it’s all I want. I hope you will do the same and enjoy each and every day as if it’s your last.

Life is short — live big.